Sexual practices: financial care and material boundaries

Financial care and material boundaries

Financial care and respect for material boundaries are essential for relationships that are fairer, safer, and freer from economic pressure.

Talking openly about money, expectations, and contributions before any exchange.

Main type of care: communication and agreements.
Level of care: basic
Recommended skills: clear communication, active listening, negotiation.
Substances that may increase some risks: alcohol, GHB/GBL, cocaine.
Potential risks: misunderstandings, unrealistic expectations, broken agreements.
Harm reduction strategies: talk before, during, and after. Check for mutual understanding.

Know and communicate your financial limits. Decide how far you can and want to go.

Main type of care: self-care and boundaries.
Level of care: basic
Recommended skills: self-knowledge, assertiveness, communicating limits.
Substances that may increase some risks: alcohol, stimulants, GHB/GBL.
Potential risks: overspending, economic pressure, debt.
Harm reduction strategies: set clear limits and respect them. Do not give in to pressure.

Agree on how payments or compensation will be handled in a fair and transparent way.

Main type of care: fairness and transparency.
Level of care: intermediate
Recommended skills: agreement management, transparency, organisation.
Substances that may increase some risks: alcohol, cocaine, methamphetamine.
Potential risks: disagreements, non-payment, economic exploitation.
Harm reduction strategies: make agreements in writing or by message. Review and confirm them.

Accepting “no” when someone does not want to pay, lend, or cover expenses.

Main type of care: respect and consent.
Level of care: intermediate
Recommended skills: respect, empathy, and accepting limits.
Substances that may increase some risks: alcohol, GHB/GBL, methamphetamine.
Potential risks: economic pressure, manipulation, relationship conflicts.
Harm reduction strategies: respect the other person’s decision without insisting. Consent also applies to money.

Do not base relationships or practices on one person’s economic dependence on the other.

Main type of care: autonomy and balance.
Level of care: specialised
Recommended skills: financial planning, independence, autonomy.
Substances that may increase some risks: alcohol, stimulants, opioids.
Potential risks: financial control, economic abuse, loss of autonomy.
Harm reduction strategies: maintain financial independence. Diversify your sources of income.

Avoid lending or asking for money informally in order to prevent conflict.

Main type of care: prevention and protection.
Level of care: specialised
Recommended skills: risk assessment, planning, decision-making.
Substances that may increase some risks: alcohol, stimulants, cocaine.
Potential risks: unpaid debts, broken bonds, situations of violence.
Harm reduction strategies: avoid informal loans. If needed, set clear written conditions.

Take care of your money, belongings, and personal spaces.

Main type of care: safety and self-care.
Level of care: specialised
Recommended skills: organisation, boundaries, prevention.
Substances that may increase some risks: alcohol, GHB/GBL, methamphetamine.
Potential risks: theft, losses, invasion of space, vulnerability.
Harm reduction strategies: keep valuable belongings secure. Set clear limits about access to your space.

Remember: Your financial well-being is also part of comprehensive care. Clear agreements, boundaries, and autonomy protect you.

Aftercare helps process emotions, reconnect, and strengthen bonds after the practice.